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A DIFFERENT KIND OF DOULA

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ADVOCATE COACH TEACHER SUPPORTER TEAMMATE FACILITATOR GO-BETWEEN

Hi, I’m Ari.

I’m Ari Rosenbaum (he/they), offering birth support for families of all kinds across Brooklyn and the greater New York City area—including queer, trans, and gender-expansive families. Bringing new life into the world is one of the most profound transitions in our lives, and I’m here to help: on your terms, in your language, for your family.

I truly believe that birth is extraordinary, natural, and unique to every birthing person. I want to instill a sense of awe into your experience — through the evidence and information you need before, the tender presence you need while you’re in it, and the fierce advocacy you need when challenges arise. That’s what I’m here to offer.

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about the practice
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Singular

Your birth is your birth. And there are no correct choices — not a particular setting, not a particular family structure, not a particular protocol. Every detail you've shared with me, every preference you've named and every fear you've carried in, stays active and present from the first contraction to the last push. You won't have to fight to be heard. This experience is yours, and I'm here to make sure it stays that way. I am working for you. Not for your hospital. Not for your provider. For you.

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Unguarded

I come to this work as a queer man who has spent a lifetime learning what it means to show up fully as yourself in rooms that weren't designed with you in mind.

I bring that same energy to your birth — not professional distance, not performed calm, but all of me. And I’ll help you do the same.

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Irreverent

I find birth endlessly fascinating, a little bit wild, and definitely a process that has its awkward moments. That lightness is intentional — because when you're in the hardest part of labor, the last thing you need is someone adding weight to the room. I keep things honest, a little loose, and focus on what’s working.

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You probably
have questions.

  • A birth doula is a trained, non-medical support person who provides continuous physical, emotional, and informational support throughout labor and birth. I’m not there to make decisions for you — I’m there to make sure you feel informed, supported, and in control of your own experience.

  • Your midwife or OB is responsible for your clinical care. I’m responsible for your experience. I don’t monitor vitals, catch the baby, or perform any medical procedures. What I do is stay with you continuously — something your medical team, however skilled and caring, usually can’t do.

  • Great partners and great doulas serve different roles, and they work really well together. Your partner loves you, which means they’re emotionally affected by what’s happening to you. I’m trained to be fully present without being overwhelmed, and I can support your partner too — coach them, help them feel useful, make sure neither of you feels alone. Research consistently shows that continuous labor support improves outcomes and satisfaction, even when a loving partner is present.

  • Doulas support surgical births too. A C-section can be just as emotionally significant as any other birth — and sometimes more disorienting. Having someone who knows your preferences, can stay with your partner, and can help you process the experience matters just as much. Let’s talk about what support looks like for your specific plan.

  • Yes — and I’d say more than comfortable. Serving trans, non-binary, and gender-nonconforming birthing people is central to why I do this work. I will follow your language, your pronouns, and your understanding of your body throughout our time together, and I’ll help you feel fully equipped to expect and ask for the same from your care team.

  • It means I might look a little different from what you’d expect when you open the door at 2am. I’ve thought about that a lot, and I think it’s worth naming directly: I’m he/they, male-assigned, and working in a field that is mostly female-identified. I come to this work with intention. If you have questions about what that means for your situation, I’d genuinely welcome that conversation on a consultation call.

  • I’ll ask. During our prenatal meetings, we’ll talk about how you’d like me to refer to you, your body, and the process. Whatever language feels right to you is the language I use — and I’ll help you communicate your preferences clearly, and support you in holding those expectations throughout.

  • I serve Brooklyn and the greater New York City area. If you’re outside that region, reach out and let’s see what’s possible.

  • Fierce & Tender operates on a sliding scale, and I mean that seriously! I am currently working towards certification, which allows for a lower cost structure for clients over the course of 2026, with fees increasing up to $1800. More details about fees are discussed on our free consultation call — please don’t let cost be the thing that stops you from reaching out.

  • Book a free consultation — no pressure, no commitment, just a conversation about your birth and whether we’re a good fit. You can reach me through the contact form on this site.

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